i know it may sound stupid but my life is so fucking boring. i wasted too much of time on the inet -- and now that i came to the conclusion i dont want to waste my whole life on the inet .. i realize that all my friends are gone nor do i have hobbies or anything at all. my life is so fucking sad and plain boring. what should i do? do you ever felt like this? btw ur blog is awesome.
It’s not stupid! I think everyone goes through that at one point of their lives, or perhaps all their life (like my dad, though he didn’t waste time on internet, it was more like, he doesn’t feel like he really lived something worthwhile in a sense and he regrets not jumping at opportunities). The one thing that can really hurt is seeing all your friends or people around you doing so much and your life seems so meagre to theirs. And then seeing celebs and movie/book characters have such a dramatic, interesting life… really, where am I going towards in my life? I get that feeling a lot, so I can understand what you’re going through.
Cutting back on internet is really hard stuff, I give in easily to temptation so I ended up installing some add-ons to my browsers that block sites so i don’t waste time (or at least, less time). Yeah, I feel pretty lame but it works (or motivates me more!).
One thing that my mom has taught me (since I tend to shy away from many things), is to take every opportunity given to you. See everything as an opportunity even if it seems challenging at first. Apply for positions, even if you don’t think you’ll get them, try anyways, it’s a learning experience. Join clubs, the small ones at first, because those are less intimidating. Do something related to sports or arts. Those two things can really connect people together and through those, perhaps you’ll find something you like to do.
And of course, don’t be afraid. Don’t be afraid to try something new, debate with people, talk about things, meet new people, learn different perspectives, speak out, step outside your comfort zone. I know it’s hard, trust me, I used to be such a hardcore introvert, reading books all the time, but I’m a lot better now. If you’re afraid, you won’t be able to attempt new things. If you don’t attempt new things, you can’t learn, experience and grow, if you don’t experience, your life won’t be as colourful as it could be.
I know this semester was just a disaster, nothing happened except that I failed a subject and I blogged. I was really disappointed in myself, the time went by too fast and I really didn’t accomplish anything. So I applied for some positions and got them, so next semester, I’m going to be an exec in a music club and an illustrator in a school publication. As well, I decided I was going to join a community french class.
So really, take the initiative, search up things in your community that you can join, be brave and join them, don’t shoot any ideas down, and slowly by slowly, you will find your hobbies and rocket towards a darn good life ;) I believe in you, even if you’re on anon, and my ramble was probably cheesy, but seriously, you can do it. Just chill, don’t think too much about it, and just do it!
Definition: Upward comparisons are one type of social comparison, or an assessment of how we measure up against our peers. When we make upward comparisons, we judge ourselves against people who are more skilled or fortunate than ourselves. (src)
I think I have some serious issues in this department. I easily get envious and try to compare myself to people who are better than me or have things I don’t. I also set some ridiculously high standards for myself and I’m not even sure if my skills can match up with those standards anymore. I used to be more realistic, but I don’t know, I keep expecting more out of myself.
I see someone more intelligent than me, more accomplished than me, and then compare myself with those type of people all the time, and then end up being all jelly and wanting to do better. In the end though, I think that just puts so much pressure on myself and I have a hard time letting go.
I forget that everybody here at university is smart, and I’m just average now. And that there’s tons of smart people in the world and I’m really, just average (or probably just slightly above average). I don’t know, I’m having a hard time accepting that. I don’t know why I care so much about intelligence and academics… I think it’s because I believe it’s the only thing I have that can bring me somewhere in life.
In conclusion: I need to chill and just enjoy life before it’s over